I got a call from a concerned friend yesterday asking if everything is going well with my love life. I was surprised and not to say a bit offended by the question. I asked for the reason of this doubt in her mind. Pat a reply came from her well, I didn’t see any pics of your anniversary celebration or valentine day.
My work requires me to be super active on social media platforms. You will often find me on some of the other social media platforms. I love to share moments and happiness with the world.
However, I understand the importance of moments that don’t require to be caught on camera. Emotions that only needs to be captured in the heart. Once I started working on building my brand’s presence on social media I made sure to take small breaks from the virtual world. In short, to go on a digital detoxification to keep my sanity intact.
I think we are the last generation who would relate to the feeling of dried flower in our books. Palpitations of receiving that first handwritten letters, keeping ourselves occupied near that landline with emotions of fear (what if someone else picks it up) and hope (that he/she will call). We understand that virtual world is not a mirror of someone’s life, it is a tiny part and mostly the illusion.
The effect of mobile phones in our daily life is increasing with each day. Don’t believe me??
- Do you look for your phone, first thing once you wake up?
- Do you remember birthdays, anniversary, and important days of your loved one’s life or you are at the mercy of phone reminders?
- Do you send your good wishes to people through WhatsApp and think that you will call soon (do you??)?
- You on a mobile/laptop, husband on a mobile/laptop and a baby on another gadget, sound familiar?
- Reminder on a phone for a quality time with your family every weekend because taking out even an hour for a real conversation in a day is difficult?
- You be on phone all day due to work and then to relieve that stress you be on phone again (games, YouTube etc.)?
If you can relate to any of the points above then you understand what I am talking about. We can’t run away from technology or existence of social media but we can teach them how less significance it has when it comes to true emotions.
Here is what I am going to teach my daughter with a hope that social media will have a less significance in her real-life decisions:
A relationship between two people flourishes when they communicate with each other. Isn’t that the “old way” of knowing each other better unlike going through their social media feed to know their choices.
Saying that there will be no screen time for my kid or I am not going to allow her to own a phone till she is so and so years is not going to help. Teaching them the importance of family values and actual family time is our responsibility.
Increasing the number of followers is a good thing but increasing the number of people who genuinely love you require more than a double tap on their photographs.
I do not want my daughter to judge herself by someone else’s comment on her DP. I am scared that coming generation will fail to understand the difference between popularity in the virtual world and actual friends in the real world. Relationships on social media are all a picture of a part of their happy moments in life but in reality, true emotions prevail and it is not a bed of all roses.
This blog is a link up with Zainab FromSlimExpectations for #WhatILove”