Get up you lazy bum, it’s your engagement day”
Mom yelled for the umpteenth time from the other room. I have been in the weird state of mind from past two days. Nothing was making me happy and the sheer thought of engagement was giving me chills.
I was finding hard to control the emotions inside me. I called the number and groom-to-be picked up the call after 2 or 3 rings:
Me: Hey, you up!
Him: It’s been 3 hours since I am up and everyone is running for something or the other.
(I could sense the happiness in his voice and knew that he must be smiling while talking with me. It broke my heart just thinking about how it will affect him when I tell him)
Him: You there?? All well….you sound little different.
Me: Yeah I am fine, just not sure if this is right?
Him: What is not right? Has something happened? You are scaring me…what happened??
Me: (I was on the verge of crying but I had to get it out of my chest) I don’t want to be engaged!
I knew what would follow. He would lose his mind and says something which makes my decision all the more right. However, I was in for a surprise.
There was a silence from the other side for a couple of minutes. I was confused what was going through his mind. Finally, he spoke.
Him: Okay, I hear you. You have to stop crying first of all and answer my question using all the brain cells working right at this moment.
You don’t want to get engaged at all OR you don’t want to engage with me???
I wasn’t prepared for this. I thought there will be some drama, yelling or something else but not this reaction. I did as I was asked, thinking about the question for a minute I had the answer.
Me: I do not want to be engaged to anyone at all. There I said it, I hate this forever commitment. I can’t, I just can’t.
Him: (Took a deep breath) alright then. The situation is not is not as bad as I thought. I understand the commitment phobia and losing the freedom etc. etc. Let’s just forget all this. I will tell my parents that this is not happening okay??
Me: No, I can’t see another melodrama. I know everyone will force me. I am going to elope and I have a plan.
Him: (I could sense he was trying to figure out all the weird information dumped on him, after a few minutes of silence he said.) So you sure that we two are okay just exchanging the ring is not your cup of tea …right??
Me: Yeah, precisely. (Followed by uncontrollable sobbing)
Him: okay, let’s do it. Meet me in 20 minutes at the bus stop and we will deal with all this later.
Me: Are you serious?
Him: Of-course I am. Give me a missed call once you leave your place…. let’s elope together.
Phone disconnected. I went to take a shower and to process all the conversation that just took place…
15th November 2018,
We will celebrate our 6th engagement anniversary. Well, I figured I won’t find someone with this tolerance level to bear my tantrums and ring exchange isn’t that bad when we spent months just to choose the right one.
Yeah, I know I am a bit too handful but that is just the way I am :). My mom often says this “Lucky are the people who have loved ones to bear their tantrums”. I know and I truly believe I indeed am the blessed one.
“It is not being in love that makes me happy, it is being in love with YOU that makes me happy”