I was buying some groceries and chatting with a neighbor. While we were talking, she mentioned something that made me ponder, is it really a truth or another Judgmental prick invented by society for women.
“A woman is complete only when she becomes a mom”
Really? And who is sitting on a panel to write such rules? So, going by the rule….A man is complete only when he becomes a dad?
So before it turns out to be a male bashing post, I want to clarify that this post is for both male and female who choose not to be a parent or be one, sooner, later or ever.
Two people who are in love together do not need to prove their love by bringing a child into this world. Heck! They need not prove anything to anyone. But our Indian society doesn’t work this way. We are master of poking our nose into everyone’s business. Imagine the despair of a couple who keep getting this unwanted advice from every tom, dick and harry that it is about time they should plan for a baby.
So, we have the right to judge someone’s choice of not being a parent but if the same couple tells you that your parenting skills are not up to the mark then you find it unacceptable? Talk about double standards. I really wish we respect the choice of people of their own life at-least.
Here are few statements which annoy the most and makes me go mad:
#1) “So when are you starting a family?”
Last time I checked two people madly in love are a family and another addition will increase the number of family members.
#2) “It is about time you should plan a baby”
It is about time you kept your mouth shut and let the people take decisions of their life. Be a man/woman and mind your own business.
#3) “After 30 there will be too many complications” okay, this is mostly or always meant for girls.
Thank you so much for your concern and I really understand that there is no degree required to become my guide towards family planning but I really don’t need one. I will decide when my ovaries and uterus are ready for a baby.
#4) “Job won’t take care of you once you are an old hag”
First of all, I will never be an old-hag. I will forever be young (yeah, I meant at heart!). Secondly, for your information, actually, the fact is my JOB will take care of me once I become an “old- hag”. I can save and spent without thinking twice. I would never miss a fight because a tiny human being just doesn’t want to give up the tantrum.
I know being a parent is wonderful because I am one, but believe me, the choice of not being one is equally fun too. Let the couple decide what they want in life and stop being an unwanted prick which keeps reminding them about how life would be once they become a parent.
“Life is beautiful as it is and a woman is complete without another tag of a relationship”
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