Overthinking invites the trouble which is not there in the first place.
My mom used to say that we should always speak positively because once in a daytime maa saraswati sits on our tongue. Which means once in a day whatever you say or think will come true.
I would be lying if I say being a kid I never wished for materialistic things and kept repeating it intentionally. This was her way of keeping the positivity in us intact. I believed in it for a really long time. Somewhere in my heart I still believe this and refrain from saying anything negative. Such is the power of fear I guess (Irony, isn’t it?).
It is a human tendency to think negative when we face an uncertain situation.
This chapter of my life will tell you the power of negative thoughts:
I was desperate for a job change and applied in many places. It had been a dry spell of jobs for a really long time for me so when I got this job I grabbed with both my hands. I ended up compromising on the job profile that I always wanted to work on but I didn’t give up. I kept on applying for that particular role and rejection never stopped coming my way.
Rejection is a perfect recipe of crushing the confidence one has and I too was a victim of that. After months of applying, I finally found one opportunity and jumped with joy. Prepped myself with a possible question and interview rounds. By the time I hit the bed I was tired but my mind just won’t stop thinking. I couldn’t sleep the whole night and kept thinking what if I fail again. Sun came up and my energy to get up from bed went down the drain.
I wasn’t sleeping but my body stopped responding. With so much of negative thoughts in my mind, all I could picturize was defeated me. I wasn’t prepared for another rejection and ended up missing the interview. Later I got to know that there were only 2 experienced people who were shortlisted for that job and I was one of them. Mom’s words kept ringing in my ear for days and I made sure to keep reminding myself about this situation every time I hit a rock bottom.
I don’t know whether I could have cracked that opportunity or not but I do regret not trying. That became a lesson for me. I learned my lesson hard way. That’s when I realized the power of negativity and the demons in our head.